Dec 5, 2011
It’s that time of the year when we look forward to having our college age and adult children and/or grand-kids head home for the holidays! Maybe your freshman is coming back to their bedroom and home for the first time or maybe it’s a young adult who has been on their own for years. It can be a tricky transition for everyone. Empty nesters get used to being on their own. We get into comfortable patterns, and by golly, the house stays much cleaner with only one or two rattling around. When our youngest comes home for a few days and settles in, we can follow the trail of shoes, open chips, computer cords and find him. He leaves a trail around the house.
What about when they go out at night? We have three boys (22, 25 and 26) and I still sleep light until I hear their car or the front door open. Should we ask them to let us know they are in. My boys have labeled me as a “creeper”. I creep around the house to see if everyone is home. If not, I go on alert and begin to call cell phones. It’s probably not the coolest thing at 26 to have your mom checking on you. What are the new house rules? How do we treat them like adults?
Keep in mind, they have been on their own and growing and experiencing life on their own. Same for us, we have been growing and experiencing life as empty nesters. Something we did a few years back was to sit down and talk about expectations from both sides. This helped in so many ways and on some topics, we had to reach a compromise. It helped to make our time together much more enjoyable.
What about the joy of grandkids coming for the holidays? I can’t even go there yet since we have none but I hear it’s the most incredible experience. We would so appreciate input from those of you who have been through this. Do you have any thoughts and suggestions when those little or big feet hit the floor of our home?
What are your experiences, challenges or suggestions in any of these areas as we approach the holidays in order to have a wonderful blessed family time together! Please let us know below.